Thanks for the multitude of takes on the car pool situation. I'm sure you are all DYING to know what happened..... Turns out I'm a big chicken. After reading all your comments yesterday and weighing the pros and cons with Hubs, we sort of decided that because of the size of the school/the 2 rides we really needed covered but mostly because I'm a big woos, we were going to stick with it but gently pass the message that we expected her to do the agreed-to days or to give us a weeks notice.
But!!! And there is a But! This morning, I brought BB to her class, which is in a different school in the same building, at 9 am, a full 40 minutes after Dumpling's start time. Then I went up to Dumpling's class to take some pictures of the kids for the teacher (look at me, budding photographer!), only to find out that Dumpling was just arriving...... Even though we had dropped her off at the carpool before 8 am. (yeah, she doesn't actually pick her up. We have to bring her to their house because their sitter doesn't get there til 8 am..... I can hear you screaming at me, I really can.) There was a whole big mix up because they got there very late and Dumpling was put on the absentee list, but the mother didn't go to the office to correct it when she got there (which is what we are supposed to do)
I was pissed. Royally pissed. So after taking portraits of all the kids and calling Hubs to let off some steam, I called her and left a message on her voice mail, expressing my displeasure and wondering why on earth Dumpling got to school at 9. To her credit, she called me back... She told me her sitter didn't get to her house til 8:30, hence the late arrival at school, and that her daughter's teacher hadn't done attendance yet, so that's why she didn't go to the office. I explained, calmly, that I didn't understand why she didn't check with Dumpling's teacher if her own attendance was done, and I also expressed my displeasure at Dumpling being so late.
But because I'm a big chicken, I left it at that.... UNTIL! (yes, it's not over!) Until I picked up Dumpling from class today (because remember, she canceled on me) and Dumpling was upset because she didn't pick out a book at the library today. When I asked her why, she told me it's because she didn't return her book from last week. Again, I was puzzled, since I know for a fact that I sent her to school with the book this morning...... Come to check her backpack in her cubby: the mom never took it out to give it to her!!!!! OK, maybe Dumpling should have said something to her, but she's 5 and she was probably totally flustered because she was late, so I'm pretty sure this is the mom's fault...... This time I was LIVID. So I called her house again, without the benefit of calming down, and her babysitter answered the phone and told me she was sleeping. At 1:30 pm, instead of picking up MY kid from school....
So yeah, I'm waiting for the call back. And telling her that I will happily drive her kid to school for the rest of the week. And that gives her until Monday to come up with new arrangements. Because I am DONE.
EDITED TO ADD: She called. And she was totally nutty. That I should be more understanding and that it's not her fault and that it's only a book.... totally unapologetic and not understanding of how upsetting the whole thing was for Dumpling..... So it's over. I am carpool free.