I have blogged in the past about having a hard time making friends. I used to have a few very good friends in college, but we all studied languages, and when you are fluent in many languages, you end up quite mobile. I was gone from my city for many years, and by the time I settled back here, most of my friends were gone, with one or two exceptions. But then, I became the married one, the one with a kid, and again, it seemed hard to keep friendships alive when people are at different stages in their professional/family life.
I tried several times to begin new friendships, only to find it was very hard. The one exception was the Amazing D and her husband A. We became friends over the soup chapter of the charity cookbook and they were the closest people to us when Dumpling arrived. But again, work/family took them to another city and we keep in touch electronically, but it's just not the same.
As a mom, I tried playgroups. There were mostly a disaster. I did know a couple of other moms who were fun, easy going and low maintenance, but the rest of the moms around here are very much cut from the Yummy Mummy mold. I am not. So either they get on my nerves or I irritate them. Either way, it doesn't work.
When Dumpling started school, I did meet several great moms. Some of them I definitely consider friends. We get together on occasion, but our bond is mostly our children, we don't have much in common as far as interests and likes.
Then, there are my bloggy friends. Clearly, it's easier to make friends online, because you become close to people who you get along with, who are like you or think like you or don't think like you but challenge you in some way. And then, even those friendships sometimes don't work out, and somehow, that hurts even more. But some friendships are real, and solid. And you go on trips with those gals.
Anyhow.... a few months ago, L, this super-cute-bubbly mom at BB's nursery school and asked me if I had heard about R's knitting group on Wednesday mornings. I happen to know R, we have older kids in the same class and she is SUPER crafty so we have crossed paths before. I told L, whom I had never spoken to before, that I hadn't heard of the knitting group but would in fact be interested. I hadn't knitted in a while, but the thought of getting together with other moms and knitting was interesting to me. I must admit, I was nervous beyond belief. Would they like me? Would I like them?
I went a couple of times and I have to say, I liked them right away. Eventually, we decided to stop meeting at R's house and move to a coffee house, so make the logistics simpler: so matter what, on Wednesday morning, we would meet up at the spot from 9 to 11 and knit. I haven't missed a week, except when I went to Texas. They are great. Every one is a little different. But they are all fascinating. And definitely low maintenance and crafty and intelligent. I look forward to Wednesday mornings. I work my schedule around it, to make sure I am not needed at work, at school, etc. Nothing comes in the way of the knitting group. I'm even knitting a nice sweater! But that's just a by product.